“It’s what’s on the inside that counts.” I imagine you’ve heard it before – and, like me, probably began hearing that message in kindergarten and from parents at an early age.
That sentiment is well and good, but we live in a culture where the daily message received from magazines, movies, and TV is “youth and beauty is what counts.” Beautiful people flaunting their good genes (and jeans) are all over the place, and the not-so-subtle “youth and beauty – it’s all about your appearance” message demands measurement by our body mass index, the kind of car we drive and the brands of clothing we wear.
“It’s what’s on the inside that counts” and “Youth and beauty is what counts.” Where’s the logic?
Healthy self-esteem is directly tied to our self-worth. But where do we derive self-worth in this illogical “inside” versus “outside” culture? If you’ve found the person who’s “inside” and like and celebrate that person – congratulations! You’ve found the answer to navigating our illogical culture. Yet for many people, finding who they really are and growing their sense of self is an elusive task. Therapy can be a great way to begin that journey.
~Andrea Gargano, LCPC